Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Nice guys finish last...until the girl grows up

I've always avoided nice guys like the plague. I immediately throw them into the "friends" category without realizing. I've dated guys that ignore me, hit me, use me as a sex toy, had me around as a back up plan in case their friends were busy, and used me as "the other woman". In my short 8 year history of dating, that is a lot of shit.
I guess I was attracted to the stereotypical "bad boy" or liked chasing or maybe I knew none of them would ever work out and that is what made them so attractive. Don't get me wrong, there have been many "nice guys" in my life, but I always thought "I don't want to hurt him" or "He is too good for me". So I deny this perfect guy to go date some asshole.
The nice guy is always there though, waiting on the sidelines to console me when the asshole breaks my heart. Nice Guy has been there to protect me from an ex trying to hit me one last time. He's given me strength to start dating again, even when he knew it wouldn't be him I was dating. Nice Guy has given me endless compliments just to boost my confidence and let me know that I deserve someone better. Nice Guy has listened to me cry, handed me tissues, and held me when I thought my world was crashing to an end. Nice Guy has been there to congratulate me on all of my successes and cheer me on in each new endeavor.
I like to think that I needed to date all of those assholes to make me who I am, but at the same time I feel really bad. I feel bad that I took so many amazing, sweet, wonderful, nice guys for granted. I'm glad I had all of the crazy experiences with men that I've had, but I wish my eyes would have been opened sooner so I could have avoided a lot of pain.
Maybe now that I am older and a little more experienced, I've realized I want a man who will love me, treat me like a queen, and stay by my side through all of life's adventures. And that is exactly the man I want. A guy who can keep up with my ever changing interests, introduce me to new things, and who is willing to give up comfortable for the unknown.
I recently found a nice guy. I thought he was handsome and fun and interesting, but I told myself "He's too nice for me. I don't want to hurt him or ruin our friendship." And then I decided that I deserve a nice guy. So here I sit, happily dating the nicest guy I've ever come across and I'm completely happy. If there is a Nice Guy reading this, just wait, some girl will grow up and realize you are the best thing that will ever happen to her. And for all of you girls, grow up and start dating a nice guy, it will be the best decision you have ever made!